The Glass – Others

Sticks and Stones…well, not exactly!

“Sticks and stones may break our bones, but words will break our hearts” – Robert Fulghum

Let’s be real.  We are constantly shaped by what other people say to and about us.  There is no way around it.  What we need to realize is that there is not much we can say or do about what other people say and do.  We can suggest.  We can hope.  But we cannot make other people change.  They must do it themselves.  Just like you.  Though people may say things to or about you, the only thing that matters is what you think.  Take criticism in stride.  Examine it, see if it can be constructive.  If it cannot, discard it and do NOT give it another thought.  On the flip side, take praise in stride also.  More times than not, praise is warranted, so accept it graciously.  Let it re-affirm your stance and attitude.  But don’t let one “Oh, S–T!” destroy al the “Way To Go!”s that you receive.

Check your circle

“Hermits have no peer pressure.” – Steven Wright

Take a good look at the people around you.  Do you have support?  Do you have love*?  Do you have pressure?  As with most things, moderation is key.  You don’t want to have TOO MUCH support, as in you “can do no wrong” because then you will lose sight of what is real and important.  Love, well, I find that you cannot have too much love, as true love is simply the absolute “right” kind of support.  Pressure….here’s the tricky one.  In order for you to grow as a person, you need pressure.  You need challenge and excitement.  However, too much pressure or the WRONG (i.e..Peer) pressure is one of the most detrimental forces in life.  So, check your circle.  Do you need to make changes?  If so, start making them TODAY.  A friend is only a friend if they can give you the right amount of support and pressure, and of course, love.

Coping with Reality

“Nothing’s beautiful from every point of view.” –Horace

How true is this statement.  And the reality is that everyone has their own point of view.  Deal with it.  The common theme of this part of the The Glass, is that you are the maker of your own destiny.  You cannot change others, so do NOT let them change you.  Agree to disagree on some points.  Thought it is very beneficial to be able to see from the point of view of someone else, do not blindly follow it.  The key to gaining the future you want is to walk forward with your eyes wide open.  See what there is to see.  Try to see everything, from all angles.  Let other people give their opinion, try to help, but don’t lose sight of you find that you are, make sure you Examine the Glass.

*Love:  I’m not talking about the kissy-kissy, mushy kind of love.  I’m talking about the love that is shared between two people who genuinely care about each other.