Let me tell you a story. 14 years ago, my Junior year in High School, I was set up on a blind date for the Homecoming Dance. Being the geek/nerd that I was, I searched the AmericaOnline profiles for anyone within the current High School age range, who went to my school, who was in the band. That was all I knew.
The person I found…well, she wasn’t my blind date. But that was okay. We became fast friends, close friends and confidants. We never dated and that was probably for the better. Fast forward 14 years, on Saturday she got married to her best friend and I was honored when she asked me to perform the ceremony. I thought I did alright. I know I fumbled a couple of times, but only because it actually hit me that I was a part of my great friend’s happiest moment. It was my honor and privilege to be standing up there.
Story number 2: I met this girl, the second semester of my freshman year of college. She was probably 1 of 6 females in the Computer Science program. We became lab partners. We also became close friends, she became my best friend. We eventually did date. That was definitely for the better, as a few years later we got married. On Sunday, we celebrated both OUR 7 year anniversary and the 7 month birthday of our son. Needless to say, this was a very happy weekend.
Two stories, both great, both of love’s success. However, we all know that love is not always so fortunate. There are people who when planning their wedding, also plan for what they will do on their 2nd wedding!!! WHO DOES THAT?!?! Well, it happens and it’s sad.
Love is the greatest unknown. As the picture above dictates, it’s a gamble each and every time. It is the greatest leap of faith one can take. Because of love you are at your most vulnerable with the person you choose. Only when you give yourself fully, do you give yourself the best chance at success.
Think about that. If you go into a relationship (any relationship for that matter), and hold things back, you are not being your true self. This CAN work out, but more times than not, whatever it is you are hiding will come out and have a good chance at ruining anything you were trying to build in the first place.
Everyone has their own views on love….on life…on faith. But to me, they are all intertwined and necessary for success. If you love someone or some thing, have faith that it will work out. Do what you need to do to make it work and your life will be so much better.
Is it better to love and lose…? I don’t know. But if you don’t try to love, you’ve already lost.