What does control mean to you? To some, it means the ability to influence others. To others, it’s the ability to influence yourself.
What about the circumstances that we find ourselves in every day? Can we really control those?
We’ve all heard that saying about being granted the patience to deal with those things we cannot change. But it’s really true. If there is something we cannot control, what benefit do we gain by worrying about it?
Instead, we should focus on what we can control and how we can react to things that we cannot control.
In the IT world, I preach to my team that we need to be more proactive. Work on preventing future pitfalls, accidents and incidents as best we can. This makes our jobs easier. Of course, we can never be 100%, so then I reinforce to my team that is is not the mistake or incident that matters most, but how we react to it.
When we can’t control the negative, we must do what we can to make the most positive out of it. It is not always easy, but it is possible. When we learn from the things that we cannot control, our jobs become much easier.
The same can be said for life, in general. We cannot control everything, but we can learn. Learning is one of the keys to success and happiness. Learn what makes you happy, control what you can to achieve that happiness.
If we learn that we can’t control everything, anything can happen.